As many of you have read, while we own a Roatan vacation rental, Mary and I live year round in the greater Boston area with our four children aged 16 to 10. So the horrific events at Monday's Boston Marathon hit very close to home in every sense of the phrase. We are so profoundly saddened by the stream of news describing the aftermath and implications for those impacted by the bombing.
One of the most heartbreaking stories that's come out here in Boston is about a family from a Boston suburb: an eight year-old boy, seven year-old girl and their parents. The father was running in the Marathon while the mom and both kids waited at the end of the course. As the father approached the finish line, his son ran out to hug him and then returned to mom as dad completed the race. That's when the first bomb went off. The little boy was killed and the mom and daughter critically wounded - mom with head injuries and the little girl has had at least one amputation. The father was outside the blast radius.
We cannot begin to fathom what that man (or his remaining family) is going through. We're just so sad and angry... deeply angry with those who did this. And we're confused.
I remember this feeling after 9/11. It's actually remarkable how it begins to fade with time, but Monday brought it all rushing back - especially the confusion. What do you do as a result of this - if not personally, then what do you do with your kids? Don't let them run marathons? Make them avoid crowded public places? Keep them inside forever?
As parents, you have to protect and guide your children, but you can't stop living. And maybe that's the key. Maybe the best way to fight the sadness and anger and confusion is, simply, living.
It's harder than it sounds. We've all heard the platitudes: live every day to the fullest, every day is a gift, life's too short, etc. And after events like Monday, we have renewed energy to enact these mantras... for a while. And then it starts to fade, and the day-to-day begins to overwhelm the bigger picture. Fight that! Don't let this feeling fade. Consider every day just how fragile life is. And live it as much as you can.
Please join us in sending everyone impacted by this horrible act your thoughts and prayers for the strength and support to see this tragedy through and move on with their lives.
And for those not directly impacted: Be with the ones you love. Create memories to last forever. Live!